Former first lady Michelle Obama opened up in a new interview with ABC News, revealing a number of personal details that had never been made public before. She said that her first pregnancy with her husband, former President Barack Obama, had ended in miscarriage and that the couple had at times sought marriage counseling during difficult stages of their relationship. The former first lady also shared exciting excerpts from her new memoir, Becoming — including how Trump’s endorsement and dissemination of the racist “birther” conspiracy that Barack Obama was born in Kenya left her unable to ever “forgive him” for stirring up and enabling dangerous white nationalists who threatened to attack her and her young daughters.
Speaking one-on-one with Good Morning America host Robin Roberts, Obama said that many women like herself who try to start families once already in their mid-30s faced the risk of fertility issues. Unfortunately, she noted, the undercurrent of shame surrounding such problems meant that many women — including herself, at the time — had no idea that such issues were perfectly normal. After suffering a miscarriage, she said, her physical and emotional pain was further amplified by feelings of inadequacy, self-blame, and isolation.
“I felt lost and alone,” she admitted. “I felt like I’d failed. I didn’t know how common miscarriages were — because we don’t talk about them. We sit in our own pain thinking that somehow we’re broken.”
In order to have her two children, Malia and Sasha, she added, she had to undergo intro-venus fertilization.
“I think it’s the worst thing we do to each other as women, not share the truth about our bodies and how they work and don’t work,” said Obama.
The former first lady also spoke frankly about her experience with marriage counseling, explaining that the process had helped her and Barack learn how to better communicate, understand each other, and take charge of their own happiness.
“I know too many young couples who struggle and think that somehow there’s something wrong with them,” she said. “I want them to know that Michelle and Barack Obama, who have a phenomenal marriage and who love each other, we work on our marriage. And we get help with our marriage when we need it.”
In excerpts from Becoming, which is set to come out on Tuesday, Obama also revealed her frustration that so many women were willing to vote for a blatant “misogynist” over “an exceptionally qualified female candidate” like Hillary Clinton. She also shared tasty details from the early stages of her romance with Barack, writing that despite initially thinking the future president was kind of a geek, that she had been seduced by his “rich, even sexy baritone” and his “strange, stirring combination” of serenity and power.
Watch Obama’s interview with Roberts below.
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