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Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise at the Sydney, Australia, premiere of the film 'To Die For' in 1996. (Photo by Patrick Riviere/Getty Images).
Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise at the Sydney, Australia, premiere of the film 'To Die For' in 1996. (Photo by Patrick Riviere/Getty Images).


Nicole Kidman says she’s had #MeToo moments, explained what she got from marrying Tom Cruise at age 22

By WITW Staff on October 15, 2018

Nicole Kidman opens up in an “as-told-to” for The Cut as part of New York magazine’s Women and Power issue, The Cut bills as powerful women talking about powerlessness. In the essay, Kidman touches on a number of aspects of her career and her ascent to becoming a powerful figure in Hollywood.

Part of that path to power involved her marriage to megastar Tom Cruise. The two married in late 1990 when she was 22 years old and he was 28, after meeting on the set of the movie Days of Thunder. They divorced 11 years later and Kidman went on to marry country singer Keith Urban, whom she describes as “the man who is my great love.”

Kidman says she married Cruise for genuine love, but that’s not all there was to their relationship. I got married very young, but it definitely wasn’t power for me — it was protection. I married for love, but being married to an extremely powerful man kept me from being sexually harassed. I would work, but I was still very much cocooned. So when I came out of it at 32, 33, it’s almost like I had to grow up.”

Nicole Kidman attends the European Premiere “Destroyer” at the 62nd BFI London Film Festival on October 14, 2018 in London, England. (Photo by Gareth Cattermole/Getty Images for BFI)

Kidman also addresses the #MeToo movement, saying she’s had incidents in her past, dating all the way to when she was a girl. But she stopped short of giving any tangible specifics. “Of course I’ve had #MeToo moments — since I was little! But do I want to expose them in an article? No,” Kidman says. “Do they come out in my work? Absolutely. I’m open and raw. I want to have my well of experience and emotion tapped into, used — and I’m not just talking about sexual harassment. I’m talking about loss, death, the full array of life. But it has to be by the right people so it’s not abused again.

Kidman also touches on the importance of women helping women, whether any women have ever held her back professionally and why she didn’t comprehend the power of winning an Oscar after picking up an Academy Award for The Hours in 2003.

Read the full story at The Cut.


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