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61% of mothers say they have felt shamed over parenting choices

By WITW Staff on June 20, 2017

Nearly two-thirds have mothers say they have been criticized for the way they parent their children, according to a new survey.

University of Michigan’s C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital polled some 475 mothers, whose kids range in age from newborns to five years old. Sixty-one percent of women reported feeling “shamed” for their parenting choices. And while social media has made it easier than ever for complete strangers to jump down mothers’ throats, most women said that the criticism came from family members: their own parents (37 percent), their co-parents (36 percent), and their in-laws (31 percent).

Discipline was the most common subject of criticism, with 70 percent of participants saying they have felt shamed for the way they discipline their child. Fifty-two percent reported being criticized for their child’s diet and nutrition, 46 percent said sleep was a contentious topic, and 39 percent said they have faced some heat for bottle-feeding or breast-feeding their child.

A majority of the mothers (56 percent) said they believed they got too much blame and not enough credit for their children’s behavior. But the criticism doesn’t always cut deep. Less than half of the respondents (42 percent) said that negative comments made them question their parenting choices.

Read more at The Cut.