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Frustrated mom issues clever invitation to principal after daughter receives dress code ‘violations’

By WITW Staff on May 22, 2017

On March 29, Catherine Guggenheimer Pearlman posted a photo of her 13-year-old daughter on Instagram wearing shorts and a T-shirt, which the young student then wore to school. To Pearlman’s chagrin, her daughter had received a dress code violation two days in a row because her shorts did not extend past her fingertips when her hands were flat at her sides.

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UPDATE: After this incident I posted a letter to the principal asking her to take my daughter shopping because I was sick of the dress code and because it was impossible to find clothes. Anyway as you may have seen the letter went viral. Since then our district (50k students) changed the code and it's no longer acceptable to say girls are a distraction. The code is also more flexible in what can be worn. ORIGINAL POST: My girl was dress coded two days in a row. It's impossible to find shorts that are remotely fashionable and below her finger tips. She's tall with long arms and fingers. One more code and she will have detention. And making the policy even more frustrating is that there isn't a dress code for high school.

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With the threat of a third violation and subsequent detention hanging over her daughter’s head, Pearlman took to the internet again, this time posting a letter her daughter’s Principal on the Today parenting community website.

“Thank you for sending a note home for the second day in a row to say my daughter was dressed inappropriately for school,” Pearlman begins in her letter. “To reward you for treating my daughter with such concern, I am cordially inviting you to take my daughter shopping.” Rattling off her daughter’s measurements, including height — she’s 13 and 5’7” — and preference for only T-shirts that sport either superhero symbols or band names, she wishes the principal the best of luck in finding clothing that adheres not only to her daughter’s specifications, but to those of the school dress code.

“As per your policy she cannot wear tank tops. Shorts and skirts must not extend to the end of the fingertips (This is a toughie.)” Pearlman continues. “So, if I were you (and I’m glad I’m not) I’d focus on the shorts first.”

Pearlman goes on to explain how she’s carved out time in the afternoons and on weekends for the principal to take her daughter shopping, asking her kindly to stick to a “reasonable budget” and driving home the absurdity of the school’s requests in her post script.

“I forgot to thank you for making it clear to my daughter that her body is somehow a distraction, either to herself or to the boys. I thought she might have missed the message earlier in the year when the gym teacher told her she couldn’t wear yoga pants because the boys aren’t able to control themselves.”

Read the full story at 22 Words.


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