According to Hollywood, women moan from pleasure all the time during sex — especially during an orgasm. Researchers disagree — not because women don’t moan, but because the majority of women say they moan for the benefit of their partner more so than being overwhelmed with pleasure.
Research published by Gayle Brewer of the University of Central Lancashire and Colin Hendrie of the University of Leeds in 2011 found that 66 percent of women surveyed engaged in “copulatory vocalization” in order to speed up their partner’s orgasm, and 87 percent said they did so to boost their partner’s self-esteem.
“While female orgasms were most commonly experienced during foreplay, copulatory vocalizations were reported to be made most often before and simultaneously with male ejaculation,” the researchers reported.
According to sexuality researcher Kristen Mark from Indiana University, the emphasis in media on women moaning during sexual pleasure may put pressure on women who strive to satisfy their partners, causing them to moan out of encouragement or to even fake orgasms. That’s not to say that there’s anything unusual about moaning out of pleasure, or even moaning to increase one’s pleasure, noted sex educator and author Patty Brisben. “There are many women who need to be vocal to help themselves achieve orgasm,” said Brisben. “It helps move them and their orgasm along.”
Regardless of how one feels about moaning, Brisben added, vocalization is an important tool in teaching a partner what feels good without having to say “stop, go, yes, more please,” or, in other words, “without sounding like a traffic cop.”
Men could benefit from added moaning as well, wrote Logan Levkoff, a sex educator and author of a guide for men titled, How to Get Your Wife to Have Sex with You. “Guys should aim for more than a single grunt at the end,” Levkoff advised. “It’s not about faking or doing something you don’t want to, but more about being sexually present and in sync with each other.”
Read the full story at CNN.