Bruised but not broken

Distraught mom posts emotional video chronicling her struggles with domestic violence

“They’re going to know that their daddy hit their mommy”


“I finally decided, after a lot of thinking that, yeah, I need to do this for me and my children,” said Emma Murphy in a heart-wrenching video she posted to YouTube on Monday. “I need to raise awareness to other women out there,” she said.

The video shows Murphy, who identifies herself as a 26-year-old mother of two from Dublin, Ireland, sitting on a staircase and speaking to a camera she’s holding. Bruising around her left eye is clearly visible and her young son, a toddler, makes a brief appearance at the beginning of the clip.

Murphy struggles to hold back tears as she chronicles the “ups and downs” of her three-year relationship with the “love of my life,” including an alleged altercation that occurred shortly after Father’s Day. “When I threw his phone he punched me in the face, and it wasn’t the first time,” Murphy states. “Last year he split my head open at an event, prior to that he punched me as well and I had a black eye,” she said, adding that he’s also subjected her to incessant verbal abuse.

To be made feel that it is acceptable is even worse,” she said. Murphy goes on to talk about summoning the courage to leave the relationship and seeking support in friends and family. “Our lives are completely torn apart and they’re going to know that their daddy hit their mommy and that’s not something that children should see,” she said in the video as tears spilled from her eyes.

In an interview with the The Irish Sun, Murphy’s partner, 28-year-old actor and gym owner Francis Usanga, claims that he pushed the Dublin mom, but did not punch her. “I know nobody will believe me but I am not a violent person. I never, ever want to hurt anyone,” he told the paper.  The Irish Sun reports that Murphy has filed a complaint with Gardai, the Irish police force, and her complaint is currently being investigated as a suspected assault.

The five-and-a-half minute video has garnered more than 56,000 views as of this report, along with a spate of comments offering encouragement and support.

“You’re so brave. Well done for getting away and protecting your children and speaking up for other women in this situation. It can only go up from here,” wrote one YouTube user.

“You go Emma!! Stay strong. You have learned from this and by posting this video and being honest with your children, you are helping so many other people learn as well,” said another user.

Murphy ends the video with a warning to other women who find themselves in similar circumstances. “If you are arguing and if your guy or your man just hits you or raise a hand to you, you have to walk away because more often than not, if it happens once it will happen again,” she said.

If you or someone you know has been victim of domestic violence and needs help, call the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1-800-799-7233.


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